Words that hurt

On two occasions (there were probably more that I didn't register), this person was provoked by the circumstances and uttered words that hurt his peers.

Two situations to avoid:

1. Grumpiness: when this person senses an air of grumpiness in the atmosphere, a strong urge for a quick comeback is warranted, often without a second thought.
2. Arrogance: maybe it's something to do with lack of attention or a role model during childhood, this person likes to feel superior over others. His arrogance is like a lion lurking in the dark. When someone else fails to do what he is gifted to, it jumps on him like from no where and instantly consumes his kindness for his poor friend. Conceitful words pour from the same mouth from which sings of praises to the Lord come out.

雅各書3-2:18如此說：

「原來我們在許多事上都有過失；若有人在話語上沒有過失，他就是完全人，也能勒住自己的全身。我們若把嚼環放在馬嘴裏，叫牠順服，就能調動牠的全身。看哪，船隻雖然甚大，又被大風催逼，只用小小的舵，就隨著掌舵的意思轉動。這樣，舌頭在百體裏也是最小的，卻能說大話。看哪，最小的火能點著最大的樹林。舌頭就是火，在我們百體中，舌頭是個罪惡的世界，能污穢全身，也能把生命的輪子點起來，並且是從地獄裏點著的。各類的走獸、飛禽、昆蟲，水族，本來都可以制伏，也已經被人制伏了；惟獨舌頭沒有人能制伏，是不止息的惡物，滿了害死人的毒氣。我們用舌頭頌讚那為主、為父的，又用舌頭咒詛那照著神形像被造的人。頌讚和咒詛從一個口裏出來！我的弟兄們，這是不應當的！泉源從一個眼裏能發出甜苦兩樣的水嗎？我的弟兄們，無花果樹能生橄欖嗎？葡萄樹能結無花果嗎？鹹水裏也不能發出甜水來。你們中間誰是有智慧有見識的呢？他就當在智慧的溫柔上顯出他的善行來。你們心裏若懷著苦毒的嫉妒和紛爭，就不可自誇，也不可說謊話抵擋真道。這樣的智慧不是從上頭來的，乃是屬地的，屬情慾的，屬鬼魔的。在何處有嫉妒、紛爭，就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。惟獨從上頭來的智慧，先是清潔，後是和平，溫良柔順，滿有憐憫，多結善果，沒有偏見，沒有假冒。並且使人和平的，是用和平所栽種的義果。」

Pray or criticize

When Chuck Swandoll spoke on the story of Nehemiah, he said, "You imfluence people who are hard to move basically through prayer. As a matter of fact, when I hear someone criticize another person, I know that individual is not praying for him. You cannot criticize a person that you are praying for. You just can't do it. Now this morning I want you to keep that in your head, as we look at Nehemiah, because Nehemiah faced an impossible set of circumstances..."

Here's Chuck, on "A Leader--From the Knees Up!"