Old CCF program: Finding mate (pt. 3 of 3)

What should a woman look for in a husband?

1. The man should be committed to growing in his relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. It is important to ensure that you don't enter into an intimate relationship where one person is a Christian and the other is not. The Bible is clear--don't get unequally yoked. To be unequally yoked is to be unable to pull together. That means there are two divergent standards, two opposite goals, two radically different interpretations of life, two imcompatible masters to serve, two contrary powers at work. Unbelief allied with belief in Jesus means just one thing--there can be no real intimacy in matters that really count. The two cannot pull together because they are not truly together. And so Paul commands believers to marry -- 1 Corinthians 7:39 -- only in the Lord.
   • Is he a Christian?
   • Does he fear God?
   • Do I take on fellow as a disciplship project?
   • If he's not about to bow before your Savior while he doesn't have your hand in marriage, do you think he's going to do when you marry him?
2. A husband should be an individual of obvious integrity.
   • Does he lie?
   • Does he admit his fault?
   • Does he cheat in games?
   • Does he respect his parents? Does he honor his parents?
3. A husband who is able to lead boldly. A leadership that is marked by an attitude of servanthood and an attitude that submits to the leadership of others.
   • Can he weight options and make good decisions?
   • Does he follow the leadership of Jesus Christ?
   • Is he becoming a leader who knows how to serve? Does he know how to serve people?
4. A husband who displays the ability to love sacrificially.
   • Does he help cleaning up after a dinner at a friend's house?
   • Does he have the willingness of holding doors for passerby with full arms?
   • How does he treat waitresses and other people who serve the public?
   • Does he control his passion to the opposite sex?
5. A husband should be able to laugh heartily.
   • Is he a humorous person?
   • Is he willing to tell jokes about himself?
   • Is he willing to show you pictures that he was less handsome?
   • Is he able to laugh without crude, unkind and cruel?
6. A husband should model genuine humility.
   • Does he always want to be the theme of a story, the joke of a party and the success of the event?
   • Is he willing to sit in the second chair? Can he be an understudy?